"It’s an enchanting story that gave me great comfort as a child. I loved the idea of having a secret place that I could share with one special friend. And I had plenty of opportunities to indulge this fantasy, because children’s literature is full of secret gangs, covert missions, secrets codes, hidden forests, passageways and compartments – all of them portals, like the wardrobe in the Narnia series – that introduce the young to the feel and functions of secrecy, its allure, value and dangers..."
She does not differentiate between the public and private spheres. Perhaps transparency in the public sphere is not such a bad thing.
For the individual, she concludes, being able to keep secrets sets one apart from the crowd; it is the beginning of individuation; sharing secrets is the basis of trust and intimate relationships. Parents should bear in mind that children need their little secrets in order to grow and develop into autonomous human beings.
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