"On the day Thomas Anderson found out he was going to be a father, he nearly fainted."
"He’d known from a young age that he wanted children in his future, but as a gay man he thought it was `impossible` for him. And when he entered his 30s as a single gay man, it felt all the more so."
“It was heartbreaking,” he told Pink News during LGBT+ Adoption and Fostering Week. `People dream about high flying careers, seeing the world – mine was to become a dad. To have the belief that that would remain a dream was horrible`..."
"LGBT+ people in the UK have had the right to adopt children since the Adoption and Children Act came into force in 2005, but like many people Thomas assumed that it only applied to couples."
"Even after he realised that the law allowed him the opportunity to adopt as a single gay man, he still feared this being snatched away from him."
"Thomas applied to adopt through St Andrew’s Children’s Society, an independent, voluntary adoption and fostering agency in Edinburgh that works in partnership with local LGBT+ organisations."
It makes you wonder whose child has been taken by this independent, voluntary adoption and fostering agency.
Most families will not have given up their babies voluntarily, as the agency makes clear on its website:
"The family will have come to the attention of social work services following ante-natal visits..."
"Birth parents will have the chance to have positive parenting experiences with their children..."
Often those positive parenting experiences will be judged by social workers as inadequate. That`s all it really takes to lose a baby.